5 Ways I Don't Love NFP by Danielle Bean

Wednesday, July 13, 2011
I'm loving this article Five Ways I Don't Love NFP by Danielle Bean. Of course NFP is the obvious choice and the healthy alternative to artificial birth control. Natural Family Planning has many wonderful attributes, but it's also not easy and can be especially challenging for couples at different times during their marriage.

I definitely recommend reading the entire article (just click on the title above), but in case you don't, I'll summarize her five reasons for not always loving NFP.

1. NFP does not work well for everyone.
She adds it can be particularly difficult while breastfeeding. Amen sister.

2. NFP is not mandatory.
Catholics once accepted children as a natural part of marriage and now many tend to view NFP and "controlling fertility as a virtue in itself. There is a brand new, modern way of looking at children through the lens of "responsibility" as opposed to "generosity" and "blessing." Honestly, this could be an entire article in and of itself. Someday I'll get the guts and write a post about this very topic.

3. Have we no shame?
"I think many of us have lost a sense of awe and holy shame about sex." Personally, I don't want to hear about anyone's cervical mucus (unless I know you really, really, really well;) and I don't really want to talk about mine. Thankyouverymuch.

4. It's only information. This is in response to some NFP teachers cautioning against the use of fertility monitors and such because they may inhibit communication (communication being one of the trademarks of NFP). But if there is a device which can help a woman monitor her fertility better, then it should be encouraged. "Communicating about that information is a separate issue and does not need to be part of the method itself."

5. Temperament Matters.
Some women enjoy monitoring and charting their fertility signs, for others it may seem like "too much information." Also some couples are better at abstaining than others and "a married couple that finds abstinence especially difficult, for example, is more likely to have a large family, whether they were planning to or not." Haha, I like that.

Danielle Bean reiterates that she not mean to be an "NFP downer" and is a supporter and self-proclaimed practicer of NFP, but she adds that NFP also needs to be talked about with the occasional "reality check."

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